some men dont take “no” for the answer?! crap!
“Some men don’t take ‘No’ for the answer,” that’s what I heard.
But I had never thought that that kind of men are so damn annoying. No matter how the N and O was written between the line, with red bold pen and underlined, they kept couldn’t read it. Or they just simply didn’t want to? And why in the world they didn’t want to understand the genuine meaning of those two letters: don’t try anymore now or later / don’t hope and please stop it / you bug me to death / if you keep trying then you would make fun of yourself.
I don’t know if I sent wrong gestures, but all I know is that I explained a lot, properly, and respectfully, as grown ups do, about how uncomfortable I was whenever he expressed his adoration towards me. If you still couldn’t understand that, I don’t want to think that it was my fault who clearly and politely said that I didn’t want you to call me anymore. I don’t want to think that probably I gave wrong message. I don’t want to think that I didn’t put the words in order so that he couldn’t feel how I was so annoyed by his behavior. No, I don’t think I made wrong about this. But I am not saying that he’s the one who was too ignorant about this, that would be too rude. Maybe, he is just simply a member of the group; a group of men who are too ‘assertive’ (see, I still try to use positive term here) and proudly say “I don’t take ‘no’ for the answer. I won’t stop just because you say ‘no’. You say ‘no’ just because you don’t know how charming I actually am… blablabla …” A group of men who loved themselves too much that they couldn’t let other people disagree about how loveable they are. Or… maybe just too weak to accept the rejection and then they make-believe that they are always loved, that there will never be a rejection in any term for them. They always think no matter how and what happen, … Oh, see, I am so frustrated that I am angry now.
This is definitely NOT what I want for now, for this time. I should feel good about myself; rebuild my self-esteem, being a self-assured person as I always used to be. But this kind of guy doesn’t help at all instead he made me want to shout: “Ouuugh! Enough please!!!” Then this good friend of mine once told me: “We men sometimes ‘read’ the word differently. When you act like you don’t want us, we tend to think that you play ‘hard to get’. So, we don’t stop and consider you women are just trying to act like you don’t want us, like you are really damn good and worth all effort. That is natural, although sometimes women like that can be very irritating…”
BAM! Suddenly I came up with another hypothesis of his ‘never surrender’ behavior. Oh my God, would he think that I did play the ‘hard to get’ so that he felt that this is a challenge?
I don’t know what else to say… speechless yet hoping that he didn’t think I played the hard to get stuff that never even crossed in my head. I never had been ever good in the game of love. This is not my field and never been interested at all to be the MVP for this game either!
Believe me that I am not interested at all. You keep trying to please me, calling me those names that mean ‘pretty’ or ‘beautiful’ that didn’t even help me to like you even better. Those pleas you asked me only made yourself even lower in my eyes. Why would you do that? What made you think that I would respect you more when you desperately showed that you need me to like you, accept you, and moreover, to love you? Those things you did to me only assured me how pathetic you are.
And I shouldn’t be with someone who’s desperately dreaming of me each night and wishing to be with me, following me wherever I am going. I am very sorry. I don’t want to be rude and sarcastic.
My friend, I’ve got so many plans (as my best friend called them instead of ‘dreams’ ^^) and frankly speaking, you are not in the list. I am so sorry. I thank you, it’s nice to know that I somehow could be endearing.
But please, respect my decision.
Thank you.
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